Stop Abuse For Everyone has teamed up with arts charity Tender Education & Arts to deliver the Tender Healthy Relationships Programme which has been delivered to schools across London for the past 10 years.

 Who is it for?

Tender Healthy Relationships is a 10 hour project which works with one class of students in either Year 7,8, 9, 10 or 11.

At the end of the project the group will share back to their peers, spreading the messages across the community as a whole.

How does it work?

Our team of trained facilitators at SAFE work with a core group of around 25 to 30 year 7-11 students for the whole 10 hours. We can be flexible about how we deliver these 10 hours; 2 full days, 5, x 2-hour sessions etc.

Our aim is to help students develop skills for building healthy and respectful relationships. We achieve this through open, creative workshops that explore the healthy and unhealthy aspects of relationships, empowering students to consider their attitudes and behaviour in an age-appropriate way.

As part of the project each participating school will receive an hour long CPD accredited INSET training session for a minimum of 20 staff.

This short training session aims to develop understanding of the issues that can arise for young people as they begin to engage in intimate relationships.

Young people are the group most at risk from abusive relationships (British Crime Survey 2010). The session equips school staff with an understanding of these issues, helping them to more effectively support their students. Run in an informal, discussion-based style, the session will cover vital information about risk factors for young people, an exploration of why abuse occurs, and guidance on approaching the issue with young people.

The Aims of the Project

 We aim to empower participating young people to:

  • Understand the components and characteristics of healthy and unhealthy relationships.
  • Discuss attitudes towards relationships constructively.
  • Recognise early warning signs of an unhealthy relationship.
  • Identify where and how to seek support.
  • Advocate respect and equality in their peer groups and communities.
  • Develop communication skills.

 What topics does this project cover?

Each project is responsive and aims to focus on the issues which are of most importance to the young people. We will challenge attitudes which tolerate, condone and normalise violence, and increase skills in safeguarding against unhealthy relationships.

 Projects will cover:

  • Different types of abuse - physical, sexual, emotional/psychological, financial.
  • The scale of the problem – in the UK 1 in 3 women experience abuse in a lifetime (NICE guidance 2014)
  • The relevance of the issue to the group - younger women (aged 16 - 24) are the age group most at risk of an unhealthy relationship (Office for National Statistics)
  • Early warning signs of an abusive, controlling partner.
  • Excuses used by an individual to control their partner.
  • Challenges of leaving an unhealthy relationship.
"Your project work and the team that delivered it clearly had a significant impact on our students and the staff involved and I would like to say a massive thank you for this." Aimee Mitchell  ISCA Academy, Exeter.

 If you would like to find out more about the Tender project in Devon contact Sarah Cole on 01392 269546 or 07419 209609 or via email [email protected]

You can also find out more about the Tender Healthy Relationships programme at Tender Education & Arts and Education .